Yep… I’m learning that lesson in life.
Lately, I have been speaking up for myself and really telling people how I feel – some people like it; some don’t. And you know what, that’s totally okay. For years upon years, I have let folks walk all over me whether it’s at work, a family member, or a friend. I’m finished. I was talking with one of my friends about it and it truly feels better when you speak up and say how you feel. It’s even better when someone asks you how you feel. (Note: I do not mean an open door to complain) It’s so radically important to say things that you feel. At times, it could get a bit uncomfortable, but trust me, you will feel better in the end.
As an example, someone recently did something I really didn’t like. I got angry, went into a tailspin, and cried. When I let those feelings out, I told that individual how I felt. After I did, they felt better for me telling them my feelings and I felt better for speaking up.
This whole post is of course a case by case basis. You don’t want to go up to your boss and say “You’re an asshole – effe you”, for example. But, lead with your gut and intuition. It always works out.
I’m on my way to re-watch Miss Representation. You know, the OWN Network’s first feature film. I watched it a while back with my friend Kelsea and was really moved by the entire film. I remember after I finished watching, I felt the need to support other women.
Pretty recently, I found myself judging other women – whether it be at work, through social media, or in passing. Let me tell you, it’s not cool and it’s not being fair. Would I like myself being judged while walking down the street or through anything I posted on Instagram? I will answer simply – NO.
So, I’m going to use this post to empower myself and proclaim to the world – NO MORE JUDGING. And ladies, let’s be more supportive of each other. I did an experiment recently where I took someone who brought me down quite a lot with moaning, bitching, and complaining – I took that and turned it into a mentoring situation. I turned negative conversations into positive ones and I am choosing to lead by example. I sure feel better.
So tonight or today – whatever it may be where you are – tell someone they look hot, smile at a stranger, or listen to a friend cry over a relationship. It’s time to start feeling good.
I just stumbled upon The Giving Keys’ video on Facebook and I had to share it on GraceistheNewGlam.com! I’m a HUGE fan of The Giving Keys and I own 2 myself. I’m waiting for the right time to ‘pay mine forward’ and this coming Sunday might be the day.
I discovered The Giving Keys through Mastin Kipp – and another time while I was grabbing a bite – we ran into Caitlin Crosby, the founder. Let me tell you – this is such an amazing thing and company that gives back and puts more kindness into the world. Buy some ‘keys’ and give them away with me on 9.15.13…..one day after my birthday!
We all have bad days, let’s face it. It’s part of being human. I’ve been on a pretty good run with daily meditation, exercising, and eating right with lots of green drinks and salads which all make me feel good, but this past weekend was a doozy for me.
It started with the hot, hot heat here in Southern California which made me irritable. Then, I couldn’t listen to my BF’s complaining, then I was bored – that led to me being upset all day yesterday. Also, at work there’s a lot of changes coming my way which is making my moods a little bit unstable. I don’t like feeling like a loose cannon and I do think bad days are a good point to start working on yourself even harder.
I walked into my job today with a not-so-great attitude and mood (never a good way to start the day). After talking to some of my dear friends, I realized that all change is not bad and now is the time to buck up and deal with it. I also realized that it was okay to feel sad, mad, and bad as long I knew why and I talked about it.
So, yes, I get bad days too and it’s all about feeling your feelings, talking about it, and then jump into the work. Right after I left work, I ran to the Chopra Center for a 30 minute group meditation. It felt SO GOOD. I left on a high and I just feel great. Use bad days as a starting point and go through the motions. Ask for help and advice – and do some self care – you’ll be feeling back to normal in no time!
First and foremost, I want to wish everyone a very happy Labor Day! Thank you for everything you do. I appreciate you. Now, onto the post.
This last week I’ve been triggered a lot. I had an emergency session with my life coach, who told me I am in a very developmental phase in my life and I am ready to really open up my intuition. (like my crazy witch vibe isn’t enough) But this is my gift – and I am really going to run with it. So, back to my week…. I was triggered at work and with my BF this weekend making me come back to San Diego all fired up to share what I got from all of it.
When you’re triggered, find what’s making you upset and meditate on it. As my life coach said, “it’s only pressure that you will feel”. Once you feel it, let your body and mind show you exactly what triggered you. In my work instance, I found out it was mean girls in 3rd grade.
Once you do these steps, you make room in your head and heart to open you up more. That’s way I love meditating so much – I feel so much more open afterwards.
Being triggered is hard to deal with. What are your triggers and are you willing to open up and heal them?